Touch is good for you.

Hugs and cuddling are part of all cultures on the planet . . . for good reason.  And, also why there are couple rituals around hugs and cuddling.  Likewise, massage is an extremely common couple ritual. 



  • __x__ amount of minutes for each person.  Or, the massage is given, but not reciprocated, at least in that moment.
  • In the morning, she would give him a foot massage, and at night, he would give her one.


Degrees of massage:

  • Shoulder rub through clothing
  • Back rub through clothing, perhaps in a chair, or lying down
  • Bare skin back massage
  • Full body massage



  • Before going to bed, after bathing is the most common
  • Just after waking up is another, especially if one partner gets up a little before the other one
  • After work
  • Scheduled:  some couples put it in their calendars for a particular day/time each week
  • Like the Nurture Jar ritual, massage is sometimes requested as there is a felt desire for one




Principal Purposes Served

  • Create stable touchstones
  • Emotional money in the bank
  • Foster nurturing, affectionate, loving contact