Breathing ritual

Yes, we’re all masters at breathing, but perhaps not gurus to the extent that Eastern philosophies have developed the art.  Tai Chi, Yoga, Tantra, and Buddhist meditation involve the very purposeful use of breath.  



  • Cuddling and breathing in synchrony – you both breathe in and out at the same time. 
  • Asynchronous breathing – after one exhales completely, you inhale. 
  • The couple sits facing each other while holding each other’s hands and looking into each other’s eyes.
  • Saying a short phrase after the inhalation and exhalation a couple times and that’s it.  The format is usually along the lines of “As we breathe in, we are connected,” or “Breathing out, we release.” 
  • Simply gazing into one another’s eyes.  In silence, or with music.  Without speaking.  Without touching.


Principal Purposes Served

  • Create stable touchstones
  • Foster trust
  • Manage conflict
  • Emotional money in the bank
  • Foster nurturing, affectionate, loving contact