Morning or evening walk

Simple.  And, one of the most common and meaningful rituals couples report.  Simplicity is also beautiful.  The walk can, of course, take place at any time of the day, and be any normal or unusual route.  Perhaps it is around the home, or a favorite spot nearby, or a hike that happens more rarely for a longer period of time.  Perhaps it is with a dog.  One couple that loved museums would have their couple-walking time together while slowly pacing the halls of various art exhibits.  Another would walk whenever it snowed in the winter, or whenever the sun was out during the Spring and Summer as extra walks.

What doesn’t hit the mark as well is walking with a friend(s), or with children, as the focus is not as squarely on the couple, which is the point/purpose of a couple ritual.  Those kind of walks can meet other valuable needs, however.

Caveat:  Rituals are difficult to be positively enriching/meaningful when the center is a problem, issue, or around logistics.  Walks can be taken for those reasons, but it is also important to have walks where the purpose is to connect and nurture the relationship.  If walks take on both roles, try taking along a symbol (e.g., walking sticks, the dog, special shirts, or arm bands) that identifies couple-special-time walks as different. 


Principal Purposes Served

  • Create stable touchstones
  • Manage conflict
  • Emotional money in the bank